Sunday, January 10, 2010

Be careful for what you wish for

Today my daughter Stefanie went back to college- hubby & son went back to Delaware- where they are living due to a situation out of our control and my oldest Jen is @ work till like 10:30 PM.

So here I sit... all alone...except for my dog Cali-we already took our walk (Buffy went to DE with the guys for this week)

To many women this would sound like Nirvana... I remember the days when all 3 kids were driving me crazy and I would've killed to have a few hours to myself... Be careful for what you wish for- it's not all it's cracked up to be... being alone that is.

I find myself watching tv. playing games on facebook, doing laundry... and being bored. I seriously need to find a hobby. On the upside I have a new book to read... but after having my whole family home over Christmas- this alone most evenings is going to get old... FAST.

Somehow way back when when I was wishing for some time to myself- I didn't actually think it through, because an occasional few hours is nice- night after night is not. Last month when I went for my check up with my dr. he told me I seemed depressed. He wants me to get out around people and suggests I join an exercise class or something. I wish I actually liked exercising and was in shape enough to actually do this, but the idea of trying to do an exercise class is really intimidating. I looked in the adult education flyer that came home and they are offering a pottery class beginning in March- that actually sounds like fun to me.

So what do I do in the meantime?


  1. People give me a hard time on my blog all the time when I wish for snow days so my school age kids can stay home - and they deride me for wanting my husband to be home from work to hang out and "play" [our word] And to be honest, I get tired of it.

    There has never been a time that I haven't wanted my kids by me or my husband home - sure it got noisy, of course they fought, yes I had to do a lot of stuff for them....but the whole point is I HAD these kids and married this man and I don't see what is so strange to want to be around them all the time.

    I am fortunate because I don't have the type of kids that disappear into their rooms or to their computer games. They LIKE to hang with us.

    I wouldn't have it any other way. I am dreading September when we dwindle to just one kid. I have no idea what Dad and I are going to do with ourselves except spoil her. :)

    In the meantime, for you, could you join a book club? Or start a potluck supper group that meets once a month with your friends? Or you could volunteer for "Meals on Wheels" - every town has one and it is only about one hour once a week - but I am telling ya' - it rocks. I loved doing it.

    Or you could just call me everyday on the phone and we can chat and scheme and plot world dominance. LOL


  2. Skippy,
    You just make me smile- thanks! :)

  3. I'm with you guys. I always loved when my kids were home and underfoot. That said, with only one kid left at home, I find myself already planning stuff to do when she's gone in a year and a half. I'm actually getting a little bit excited about it. I would never admit that to most people, but really, I feel like there's so much to do out there that can be done if I'm not stopping at 2:30 to go pick up from school or run to piano or bassoon lessons or to the mall or . . .
    I find that a charitable organization can do a lot to fill days, weeks, months. I started helping at an immigrant center and before you know it, they sucked me in and now I'm doing three jobs, on a committee and a board.
    BUT, back to you - you should write a book.

  4. and what would the book be about???? :)